Memorial Day: 5 Reasons Why Remembering Is Important

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Memorial Day is more than a three-day weekend or the unofficial start of summer. It’s a sacred invitation to pause, reflect, and remember. In a culture that moves at the speed of a scrolling screen, practicing the discipline of remembering has become both countercultural and essential.

This day, set aside to honor those who have given their lives in service to our country, invites us into something deeper than nostalgia. It calls us to gratitude and beckons us to learn from the past.

When we fail to remember the sacrifices of those who came before us, we succumb to a convenient amnesia that gradually robs us of the freedoms we cherish. To fail to remember creates a contagious apathy that leads to a neglect of both our responsibility and our citizenship. To fail to remember can produce a false sense of security and an inaccurate perception that we are exempt from dictatorship and autocracy. If for no other reason, we should remember in order to guard against what George Washington called “the impostures of pretended patriotism.”

As we observe Memorial Day, here are five reflections about the importance of remembering:

  • Remembering is a sacred act. Throughout Scripture, God’s people are called to remember. “Remember the wonders He has done,” the psalmist writes (Psalm 105:5). Jesus, at the Last Supper, told his disciples, “Do this in remembrance of me.” Remembering anchors us. It shapes our identity. It gives context to our present and guidance for our future.

  • Remembering reminds us our freedom was not free. The liberties we enjoy come at a cost. Franklin D. Roosevelt cautioned, “Those who have long enjoyed such privileges as we enjoy forget in time that men have died to win them.”  Memorial Day reminds us that peace is preserved by those willing to risk—and sometimes give—their lives. Honoring the fallen should stir in us a sense of responsibility to live in a way that upholds the values they died defending.
  • Remembering evokes both grief and gratitude. For many, Memorial Day carries deep personal loss. It’s not just a day of flags and flowers—it’s a day when grief resurfaces. And yet, gratitude finds space there too. As one veteran said, “We don’t remember them because they died. We remember them because they lived.” Their stories of courage and selflessness inspire us to live with more purpose and compassion.
  • Remembering can shape us for the better. When we take the time to remember, we grow in empathy. We honor courage. We rediscover our shared humanity. And we are reminded that our freedom, our peace, and our way of life are built on the backs of those who stood in harm’s way for the sake of others. We are also inspired to protect and preserve freedom for those who come after us.
  • Remembering prompts us to pass the memories along to the next generation. Ronald Reagan cautioned, “Freedom is never more than one generation away from extinction. It must be fought for, protected, and handed on for them to do the same.” Our children and grandchildren won’t understand the meaning of Memorial Day unless we tell the stories. Visit a veterans’ cemetery, attend a memorial service, or share the history of someone in your family or community who served. Let them see remembrance in action.

This Memorial Day, let us do more than enjoy a day off. Let us pause. Let us give thanks. Let us reflect on the cost of the liberties we enjoy. Let us teach our children the stories of valor and sacrifice. And let us recommit ourselves to building a world worthy of the lives that were given.

John F. Kennedy insisted, “As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.”

Kennedy’s words seem even more relevant today. It’s not enough to say thank you—we must live in a way that honors the gift. Memorial Day challenges us to turn remembrance into action: by serving others, standing up for justice, and living with integrity.

(Barry Howard is a retired pastor who currently serves as a leadership coach and consultant with the Center for Healthy Churches. He and his wife reside on Cove Lake in northeast Alabama.)

Where There’s a Will, There’s a Way: 7 Reasons You Need an Estate Plan

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We often hear the phrase “Where there’s a will, there’s a way,” as a rallying cry for perseverance. But when it comes to your estate, that phrase takes on a more literal—and vitally important—meaning. Without a will or estate plan, your family and assets can be left in limbo, regardless of your age, income, or family situation.

A few days ago, my wife and I met with our attorney to update our estate plan. Although we have had a will for many years, now that we have retired, we needed to amend a few provisions, revise some of the contact information, and update our bequests.

Throughout my years serving as pastor, I was shocked at the number of church members who had no will, and many who thought they didn’t need one. I remember one individual who told me, “Our kids will just divvy it up when we’re gone.” That person was naïve about the probate process and unaware of the costs, monetarily and emotionally, of “divvying it up.”

I started planning workshops at the church, facilitated by attorneys and CPAs, to educate the congregation about wills, estate plans, and advance directives. I also began including a brief discussion about wills in my pre-marriage counseling sessions.

Alan Lakein contends, “Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now.”

Estate planning isn’t just for the wealthy or elderly. It’s a gift to your family, a part of the spiritual discipline of stewardship, and a wise decision at any stage of life. Here are seven compelling reasons to begin or update your estate plan:

1. It is good stewardship.

As people of faith and principle, we are called to manage well what has been entrusted to us. Creating an estate plan is a practical way to manage your resources with wisdom and intention, ensuring that your legacy reflects your values and priorities.

2. It provides clarity about your final wishes.

From how your assets should be distributed to your desires for end-of-life care or funeral arrangements, your estate plan provides clear direction. Without it, your family is left to guess—and sometimes disagree—about what you would have wanted.

3. It helps avoid family conflict.

Even the most harmonious families can experience stress and tension when a loved one dies without a will. A well-crafted estate plan can help prevent misunderstandings and disputes by making your wishes unmistakably clear.

4. It protects minor children.

If you have children under the age of 18, your estate plan allows you to name a guardian—someone you trust to care for them if the unthinkable happens. Without a will, the courts make that decision without your input.

5. It facilitates a timely probate process and avoids unnecessary legal entanglements.

Proper planning streamlines the legal process, reduces delays, and minimizes costs associated with probate. An estate plan can help your loved ones navigate a difficult time with less bureaucracy and stress. Shez Christopher wittily points out, “If you do not have a Will or plan for your estate, then the government has one for you.” 

6. It makes you better prepared for unexpected events or catastrophic illness.

Estate plans often include advance directives and powers of attorney, ensuring that someone you trust can make financial or medical decisions on your behalf if you’re ever incapacitated. Richard Cushing advises, “Always plan ahead. It wasn’t raining when Noah built the ark.”

7. It creates a path for your assets to continue to bless others after you are gone.

Whether it’s providing for your family, supporting your church, or giving to a cause you care about, your estate plan becomes a channel for generosity—allowing your life to have a lasting impact.

David Angway, a Wealth Advisor and Trust Estate Planner, summarizes it this way: “Planning your estate ensures that your family’s future is secure and harmonious after you’re gone. Properly organizing the distribution of your property prevents conflicts and misunderstandings, fostering respect and unity among your loved ones.”

Don’t procrastinate! And don’t wait for a crisis to start the conversation. Begin today. Where there’s a will, there’s not just a way forward for your family—but a legacy that honors your life, your faith, and your values.

(Barry Howard is a retired pastor who currently serves as a leadership coach and consultant with the Center for Healthy Churches. He and his wife reside on Cove Lake in northeast Alabama.)

Life Is Short: 7 Reasons to Receive Each Day As a Gift

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The famous evangelist Billy Graham confessed, “The greatest surprise in life to me is the brevity of life.”

We’ve all heard the phrase, “Life is short.” It’s often said in passing—when we lose someone too soon, when a moment takes our breath away, or when we’re reminded how fast the years fly by. But what if we took that phrase to heart? What if we allowed it to shape the way we think, speak, love, serve, and live?

Here are seven reasons to live each day as a sacred and fleeting gift:

1. Time is a non-renewable resource.

Unlike money, time cannot be earned back or saved up. Every sunrise is a once-in-a-lifetime event. Each conversation, each quiet moment, each new opportunity is here now—and may never come again.

2. Today presents opportunities to grow.

Each day brings lessons, challenges, and opportunities for growth. We’re not the same people we were yesterday. Receive today as a gradual and progressive step forward in your becoming—a place where faith can deepen and character can stretch.

3. Lighten the load someone else is carrying.

When we live with compassion and kindness, we become part of someone else’s healing. A smile, a kind gesture, or an encouraging word may seem ordinary to you but can be life-giving to someone else. Phillips Brooks urged, “Be patient and understanding. Life is too short to be vengeful or malicious.”

4. Joy is often hidden in the present moment.

When we stop chasing “someday” and start noticing “today,” we discover beauty in the now. The warmth of coffee, the sound of laughter, the beauty of a landscape, the encouragement of a friend—these are the moments that quietly nourish the soul.

5. Gratitude changes our perspective.

When we live with the mindset that each day is a gift, we begin to see more gifts in our days. Gratitude doesn’t change our circumstances—it transforms our perspective. And that shift is powerful.

6. Regret is too heavy to lug around.

The weight of “I wish I had…” can be heavy. But when we live intentionally—speaking our hearts, showing up for others, and taking courageous steps—we reduce the space for regret and make room for peace.

7. Today is the only day you are promised.

Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. All we truly have is today—this moment, this breath, this chance. Don’t wait for all the stars to align in your favor to start living fully. Begin now.

Annie Dillard reminds us, “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.”

Life is short—a sacred breath between dust and eternity. So love deeply, forgive freely, walk humbly, and live each day as a precious gift not to be wasted.

Let’s not just say life is short—let’s embrace today and live life to the fullest.

Come Monday: Finding Community in a Culture of Loneliness

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“Come Monday, it’ll be all right/Come Monday, I’ll be holding you tight…” 

Those lyrics from Jimmy Buffett’s wistful ballad echo with a hope many of us carry. The song speaks of longing and loneliness, of waiting for that moment when things feel okay again—when presence replaces absence, and connection returns.

Believe it or not, Scripture echoes similar feelings. In Psalm 25:16, David writes,“Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted.”

The mighty warrior and beloved leader knew what loneliness felt like. And he had the courage to say it out loud.

Mother Teresa insisted, “The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved.”

In the spring of 2023, U.S. surgeon general Vivek Murthy placed a spotlight on America’s problem with loneliness when he declared the issue an epidemic.

In a recent Harvard study, 21% of those surveyed indicated they had serious feelings of loneliness.

Loneliness affects all ages. The Harvard study indicated widespread loneliness, especially among younger adults:

  • People between 30-44 years of age were the loneliest group — 29% of people in this age range said they were “frequently” or “always” lonely
  • Among 18–29-year-olds — the rate was 24%
  • For 45–64-year-olds, the rate was 20%
  • Adults aged 65 and older reported the lowest rate: 10% felt lonely

Loneliness Is Real—Even in a Crowded World

We live in a hyper-connected culture. Our phones buzz with messages, notifications, and endless content. But despite the noise, many people quietly struggle with a deep sense of disconnection.

You don’t have to be alone to feel lonely. It’s not about how many people are around you. It’s about whether anyone really sees you, knows you, or understands what you’re going through.

Loneliness can come in many forms: grief, life transitions, emotional exhaustion, or even just the slow drift away from relationships that once felt close. And it’s something that affects all ages, backgrounds, and life stages.

God Meets Us in Our Loneliness

When David cried out to God in Psalm 25, he wasn’t looking for a quick fix—he was seeking a Presence that could hold the weight of his heart.

“Relieve the troubles of my heart and free me from my anguish.” (v. 17)

In our loneliest moments, God doesn’t pull away. God draws near. The Bible reminds us again and again that the Lord is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), that God is a refuge for the weary, and that God’s companionship is steady—even when human company isn’t.

And here’s the beautiful irony: naming our loneliness is often the first step toward overcoming it. David didn’t pretend. He openly sought God’s comfort and grace for his troubled spirit and his feelings of aloneness.

We Were Made for Connection

While God is with us in solitude, God also created us for community. From the very beginning, God said, “It is not good for man to be alone.” (Genesis 2:18)

That’s not just about marriage or friendship—it’s about belonging. And that’s what the Church is called to be: a place of welcome, honesty, and presence.

The early church wasn’t built on flashy programs or fancy buildings. It was built on people sharing life—breaking bread, praying, carrying one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2). And that’s still the vision today.

So here’s the question: Are we building that kind of community in our churches, small groups, neighborhoods, and homes? Are we noticing the ones who might be quietly hurting?

Sometimes healing starts with a text. A coffee. A simple, “Hey, how are you—really?”

Serve Others. That’s a Great Place to Discover Community.

It might sound counterintuitive, but one of the most powerful ways to overcome loneliness is to look outward. When we serve others—when we step into someone else’s world—we often find healing for our own hearts.

Volunteering. Showing up for someone. Encouraging a neighbor. These small acts become lifelines, not just for them, but for us. They remind us that we’re still part of something bigger than ourselves.

In serving, we move from feeling invisible to feeling useful. We rediscover joy. And we start to experience what David prayed for—freedom from anguish, connection to something real, and hope for the days ahead.

“Come Monday, it’ll be all right,” Buffett sang. David, too, clung to hope in his song:

“My hope, Lord, is in you.” (Psalm 25:21)

Loneliness may visit, but it doesn’t have to stay. Community, companionships, and collegiality are blessings that have to be cultivated and nurtured.

Albert Einstein once said, “Although I am a typical loner in my daily life, my awareness of belonging to the invisible community of those who strive for truth, beauty, and justice has prevented me from feelings of isolation.”

What if we could help others find that same invisible community—and make it visible?

We can’t solve loneliness overnight. But we can foster healthy connections. We can be a friend to others. We can ask for help when needed. We can build a spirit of community. And we can nurture and grow in our relationship with God.

(This is an updated version of a sermon presented at the First Baptist Church of Pensacola in 2007 during our spring series “Changes in Latitude.”)

“My Head Hurts, My Feet Stink, and I Don’t Love Jesus”

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One of Jimmy Buffett’s more unusual song titles has always struck me as confessional:“ My Head Hurts, My Feet Stink, and I Really Don’t Love Jesus.”

At first glance, that may feel jarring—even offensive. But sometimes, brutal honesty says what softer words can’t.

Long before moving to the coast of Florida, I loved the music of Jimmy Buffett. Though many of the lyrics are not Sunday morning pulpit material, I think Buffett may have given voice to something that a lot of people quietly feel: life is overwhelming, I’m exhausted, and if this is what religion is, I’m not buying it.

There’s a sobering passage in the Bible that feels strangely modern. It comes from Paul’s second letter to Timothy, chapter 3, verses 1–9 (The Message):

“Don’t be naive. There are difficult times ahead. As the end approaches, people are going to be self-absorbed, money-hungry, self-promoting, stuck-up, profane, contemptuous of parents, crude, coarse, dog-eat-dog, unbending, slanderers, impulsively wild, savage, cynical, treacherous, ruthless, bloated windbags, addicted to lust, and allergic to God. They’ll make a show of religion, but behind the scenes they’re animals. Stay clear of these people… They get exploited every time and never really learn… But nothing will come of these latest impostors. Everyone will see through them…”

Paul paints a picture of a society unraveling—where people are self-absorbed, cynical, addicted to chaos, and allergic to God. He warns of those who put on a show of religion but live like animals behind the curtain.

And then Paul says: “Stay clear of these people.”

Now that’s a hard line. But maybe it’s not about avoiding people in pain. Maybe it’s about being wise enough to walk away from shallow religion so we can offer something real.

Because here’s the truth: people are hurting. And they’re not looking for performance—they’re looking for peace.

When Your Head Hurts: Life Can Be Heavy

We live in an age of anxiety, distraction, and noise. People are overwhelmed—mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Church clichés don’t help. Quoting verses out of context doesn’t help. What people long for is honest faith that doesn’t pretend to have all the answers but still clings to hope.

We all know someone (maybe it’s you) who’s tired of the game—tired of pretending everything’s okay. Maybe faith has become foggy. Maybe the pain has been too heavy. And in those moments, the last thing people need is shallow religion.

What they need is a Savior who doesn’t flinch at the truth.

When Your Feet Stink: The journey can be exhausting.

“Feet stink” is just a gritty way of saying: I’m worn out.
Life has been a long journey. Some people are exhausted from walking it alone—or worse, walking it while being judged by those who say they follow Jesus.

But here’s the beauty of the real gospel: Jesus doesn’t keep his distance from the dirty. He kneels. He washes feet. He welcomes the weary. And he still does.

What if the church looked more like a basin and towel, and less like a stage?

“I Really Don’t Love Jesus”: Honest confession is a good place to start.

This may be the most painful line in the song—but also the most honest. Some people don’t feel any affection for Jesus because the version they were shown was twisted, manipulative, or weaponized.

But often, when people say they don’t love Jesus, what they really mean is:
“I’ve never met the real One.”

And that’s where we come in—not to argue or defend, but to embody Christ.
To show them a Jesus who is full of grace and truth. A Jesus who welcomes doubt, heals wounds, confronts injustice, and never stops loving.

Staying Clear and Staying Compassionate

Paul’s warning to “stay clear” wasn’t about cutting off the brokenhearted. It was about stepping away from religious performance—from counterfeit faith that values appearance over authenticity.

Because in a world addicted to the fake, authenticity is the most powerful witness.

Let’s be real. Let’s be honest. Let’s be kind.

So yes—some people’s heads hurt. Some are worn out. And some aren’t sure they love Jesus at all.

But what if they haven’t been rightly introduced? What if their view has been blocked by loud religion and quiet hypocrisy?

Let’s be the ones who live with humble faith.
Let’s create space for hard questions and honest searching.
Let’s love people right where they are.

Because when someone meets the real Jesus—not the bumper-sticker version, not the political mascot, but the crucified and risen Savior—they just might find that their headache eases, their feet find rest, and their heart begins to soften.

And maybe, just maybe, they will grow to genuinely love and follow Jesus.

Honest Conversations About Grief: 7 Suggestions for Navigating the Emotions Associated with Loss

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Grief is an inevitable part of the human experience—an emotional upheaval that accompanies loss. Whether it’s the passing of a loved one, the end of a cherished relationship, or the loss of a job or a dream, grief takes many forms throughout our lives. As Orson Scott Card observes, “Life is full of grief, to exactly the degree we allow ourselves to love other people.”

Although grief is a universal emotion, it remains one of the most difficult to discuss. In a culture that often avoids uncomfortable topics, honest conversations about grief are vital. They help foster healing, build understanding, and provide comfort to those navigating the depths of sorrow.

Grief is multifaceted and deeply personal. It can be unpredictable, chaotic, and different for each person. That’s why it’s important to remember: there is no “right” way to grieve.

Some experience intense emotions immediately; others need more time to process. There is no timetable for healing, and individuals should feel free to grieve at their own pace—without judgment or pressure.

Draw on the Strength of Faith and Community

Faith does not exempt us from grief, but it can equip us to grieve in healthy, hope-filled ways. A supportive faith community can offer comfort, presence, and a reminder that we do not walk this path alone. For those without a faith foundation or a circle of support, grief can feel especially devastating.

Acknowledge Your Grief

Don’t bottle it up or push it aside. Our society often suggests that grief should be handled privately, behind closed doors. This mindset can isolate the grieving, leaving them feeling alone and reluctant to seek help. Open dialogue is essential.

As Richard Rohr wisely says, “You cannot heal what you do not acknowledge, and what you do not consciously acknowledge will remain in control of you from within, festering and destroying you and those around you.”

Maintain an Attitude of Empathy and Respect

Empathy is the key to honest conversations about grief. It allows us to acknowledge another’s pain without trying to fix it or explain it away. Grief can feel overwhelming, and sometimes, the most helpful response is simply listening.

Avoid clichés and platitudes. While well-intended, phrases like “time heals all wounds” or “they’re in a better place” can minimize the person’s pain. A sincere “I’m here for you” or the gift of quiet presence often speaks more powerfully.

Give Yourself and Others the Grace and Space to Grieve

One of the greatest gifts we can give someone who is grieving is the grace to grieve in their own way and the space to express it freely. Safe spaces—whether in support groups, counseling settings, or among friends and family—allow individuals to share their grief without fear of criticism or dismissal.

Help Destigmatize Grief

Societal expectations to “stay strong” or “move on” can stigmatize grief, making people feel ashamed of their pain. Honest conversations help dismantle these barriers, reassuring the grieving that they are not alone.

Encourage Professional Support When Needed

While the support of friends and family is crucial, some may need professional guidance to process their grief. Gentle encouragement toward counseling or therapy can be part of a healthy response to grief. Trained professionals can offer tools and perspective to help navigate loss.

Offer Support—Not Fixes

Supporting someone in grief isn’t about offering advice or solutions. It’s about being a steady, compassionate presence. Here are a few practical ways to support someone:

  • Be present: Simply showing up and staying nearby, even in silence, can provide great comfort.
  • Listen actively: Give them space to share memories, emotions, and struggles without interruption.
  • Validate their feelings: Let them know their emotions are normal and that it’s okay to grieve.
  • Offer practical help: Grief can be exhausting. Small acts of service—like preparing a meal or running errands—can ease the burden.
  • Respect the journey: Everyone grieves differently. Avoid imposing timelines or expectations.

Honest conversations about grief are crucial for healing. When we create safe, empathetic spaces for others to speak openly about their pain, we help dispel the stigma around grieving and foster a more supportive, compassionate community.

As Sarah Bessen writes, “Grief can be a burden, but also an anchor. You get used to the weight, how it holds you in place.” Healthy grief doesn’t erase the pain—but over time, it can ground us, gradually guiding us from emotional upheaval toward a place of greater stability.

(Barry Howard is a retired pastor who currently serves as a leadership coach and columnist with the Center for Healthy Churches.)

(Updated column from 2023)

As the Winds of Time Blow: 10 Ways to Navigate the Changing Seasons of Life

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Life is full of seasons—some bright and full of joy, others challenging and uncertain. Just as nature moves from spring to summer, fall to winter, we also experience transitions in relationships, careers, health, and faith.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 affirms, “To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven.”

Change is inevitable, but how we navigate these shifts can shape our growth and resilience. Marie Dee cautions, “If you stay stuck in the past season or fixated on the future season, you will miss the one you’re in.”

Whether you’re entering a season of renewal or walking through a time of hardship, here are 10 ways to navigate life’s changing seasons with wisdom and grace:

1. Learn to be faithful and flexible. Faithfulness and adaptability are not mutually exclusive. Change is constant, and it can be uncomfortable at times. However, resisting it only makes the transition harder. Accepting that life moves in seasons allows us to adapt with greater peace and confidence. Trust that each new chapter holds purpose, even if you can’t see it yet.

2. Lean into your faith. Uncertainty can feel overwhelming, but God is constant. Seek God’s guidance through prayer, Scripture, and quiet reflection. Faith does not exempt us from change, but it can serve as a compass to help us navigate change.

3. Let go of what you no longer need. Not everything (or everyone) is meant to journey with you into the next season. Holding onto outdated habits, practices, relationships, or relics can keep you from growing into who you are meant to be. Just as trees shed their leaves in autumn, sometimes we must release the past to make room for the future.

4. Stay rooted in gratitude. In seasons of uncertainty, gratitude shifts our focus from what we lack to what we have. Take time each day to acknowledge the blessings around you. Even in difficult times, there is always something to be thankful for.

5. Stay connected to spiritual community. Life’s transitions are easier when you’re surrounded by supportive people who offer encouragement and wisdom. Seek out mentors, trusted friends, or faith leaders who can help you navigate unfamiliar territory with clarity and perspective.

6. Continue learning and growing. Each season—whether joyful or challenging—teaches us something valuable. Instead of asking, “Why is this happening to me?” shift the question to, “What is this season teaching me?” Growth happens when we are willing to learn from the experiences life brings our way.

7. Prioritize self-care. Transitions can be exhausting, so take good care of your body, mind, and spirit. Eat well, rest, exercise, and nurture your spiritual life. A well-cared-for heart and mind will help you face change with greater strength.

8. Be patient with yourself and others. Adjusting to a new season takes time. Don’t rush the process or compare your journey to others. Give yourself grace, knowing that transitions are part of life’s unfolding story. And exercise the same patience toward others who may be struggling to adjust to a new season as well.

9. Find joy in the present moment. It’s easy to focus on what’s ahead or dwell on what’s behind, but true peace and joy are always found in the here and now. Look for moments of joy, laughter, and beauty, even in uncertain times. Henri Nouwen reminds us, “Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day.”

10. Keep moving forward with hope. No season lasts forever. If you’re in a difficult one, live as though brighter days areahead. If you’re in a season of joy, cherish it fully. With faith, resilience, and an open mind, you can step into each new chapter with confidence.

In addressing the impact of cultural shifts and societal changes, Malcolm Gladwell, author of The Tipping Point, contends, “You need to have the ability to gracefully navigate the world.”  

Navigating the changing seasons of life isn’t always easy, but it is always possible—with faith, wisdom, and courage. No matter what season you find yourself in today, make the most of that season, and you will be better prepared to navigate the seasons yet to come.

(Barry Howard is a retired pastor who currently serves as a leadership coach and columnist for the Center for Healthy Churches. He and his wife reside on Cove Lake in northeast Alabama.)

5 Reasons to Reboot: Lessons from a Smartphone

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We all know the moment: your phone starts acting strangely—apps freeze, battery drains fast, and everything slows to a crawl. Tech support’s first advice? “Have you tried turning it off and back on again?”

As it turns out, that same principle applies to our faith. As we deal with the multiple influences and pressures of life, Kris Gage reminds us, “Sometimes the best way to move forward is to stop where you are and hit reset.”

Just as our smartphones need an occasional reboot to clear out digital junk and recalibrate, our spiritual lives benefit from periodic resets. Here are five reasons why rebooting your faith is essential—and how it can renew your connection with God.

1. To Clear Spiritual Clutter

Phones accumulate digital debris—temporary files, cookies, cached data. Over time, all that clutter slows down performance.

Our faith can gather clutter too: half-truths, distractions, unchecked assumptions. Rebooting spiritually clears the mental and emotional cache, making room for the teachings of Jesus to flow freely again.

“Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.” — Psalm 51:10

2. To Realign with the Operating System

Every smart device has a central OS that governs how it runs. For the Jesus follower, our operating system is the message and mission of Christ.

When we reboot, we allow God to reset our priorities, renew our minds, and align our hearts with His purpose.

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” —Romans 12:2

3. To Remove Corrupt Data

Malware and corrupt files can sneak into our devices quietly—and they do the same in our minds. False narratives, toxic theology, or legalism can distort our view of God and others.

Rebooting invites the Holy Spirit to expose and erase the lies we’ve believed and replace them with grace and truth.
“Test everything; hold fast what is good.” —1 Thessalonians 5:21

4. To Improve Connection

When your Wi-Fi signal drops, it can feel like you’re disconnected from the world. Spiritually, we experience similar moments—when prayer feels dry or God feels distant.

A spiritual reboot can restore connection. Turn things off. Be still. Listen. Reconnect with Scripture. Rest. Refocus. Re-vision. You’ll be surprised how strong the signal comes back.

“Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you.” —James 4:8

5. To Prevent a Crash

We often ignore the warning signs—just like when our phones start lagging. But ignoring your soul’s warning signs can lead to burnout, bitterness, or spiritual apathy.

A regular reboot is a form of soul care. It’s how we stay grounded, avoid a crash, and continue running with purpose and clarity.

“Those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength…” —Isaiah 40:31

We don’t throw our phones away when they start acting up—we reset them. In the same way, God doesn’t discard us when we drift. Rather, God lovingly invites us to reset, refresh, and reboot.

As the cell phone revolution advanced, Jimmy Fallon quipped, “A new survey out says 64 percent of Americans own a smartphone. Which is interesting because in a related survey, 100 percent of smart phones say they own an American.”

Rebooting is a way to realign with your faith and to keep the spam, the cookies, the conspiracies, and the heresies from owning you.

(Barry Howard is a retired pastor who currently serves as leadership coach and consultant with the Center for Healthy Churches. He and his wife reside on Cove Lake in northeast Alabama.)

Letting Easter Dawn on You

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Henry Wadsworth Longfellow observed, “T’was Easter Sunday, the full-blossomed trees filled all the air with fragrance and with joy.”

Easter is more than an event on the calendar—it’s a dawning. A slow, radiant breaking-in of a truth too large, too beautiful, too life-altering to rush in all at once. For Mary Magdalene and the other disciples, Easter didn’t explode into their hearts like fireworks—it crept in like morning light, gradually dispelling the shadows.

Kathryn Turner suggests, “Easter does not arrive as a blinding flash… rather it feels like a series of glimpses until one day we know it to be true… and are willing to stake our life—on the earth and the one hereafter—on it.”

Sometimes in life, we understand a message or get the point the first time it comes our way. But there are other times, it takes a while for truth and reality to soak in.

Regarding the story of the resurrection, some embrace the good news on the first encounter, while others hear the message for years until one day, like a grand epiphany, it dawns on them.

Let’s walk with Mary and the disciples through John 20:1–18 to see what we can learn from their response to the empty tomb:

Avoid jumping to conclusions. “So she came running to Simon Peter and the other disciple… ‘They have taken the Lord out of the tomb, and we don’t know where they have put him!’” (v. 2)

Mary sees the stone rolled away and immediately assumes the worst. She jumps to a conclusion without all the facts—a very human thing to do. How often do we do the same in our faith journey? We face unanswered prayers, pain, or confusion, and assume God is absent, or that hope is lost.

But Easter reminds us—just because we don’t see Jesus doesn’t mean He isn’t present. The tomb was empty, not because something had gone wrong, but because everything had gone gloriously right.

Let Easter dawn slowly. Don’t be so quick to declare the end of the story before God has finished writing it.

Ask good questions. Peter and John race to the tomb. They see the linen and head back home. But Mary stays—and she asks.

She weeps and asks the angels, “They have taken my Lord… and I don’t know where they have put him.” Then Jesus appears—though she thinks he’s the gardener—and again she asks, “Sir, if you have carried him away…”

She’s seeking, questioning, longing. And then—He says her name. “Mary.”

And in that moment, her questions find their answer—not in information, but in relationship.

Barbara Brown Taylor puts it this way: “Easter began the moment the gardener said, ‘Mary!’ and she knew who he was. That is where the miracle happened and goes on happening — not in the tomb but in the encounter with the living Lord.”

Ask good questions. Bring your doubts. Voice your grief. Easter has room for all of that.

Act on what you learn.  After Mary recognizes Jesus, he tells her, “Go to my brothers and tell them…” And she goes—becomes the first preacher of the resurrection: “I have seen the Lord!”

Letting Easter dawn on us isn’t just about having a warm feeling inside. It’s about living out the truth of the resurrection.

Easter doesn’t end with an empty tomb—it begins with changed lives.

Phillips Brooks described the message of Easter like this:

Tomb, thou shalt not hold Him longer;
Death is strong, but Life is stronger;
Stronger than the dark, the light;
Stronger than the wrong, the right.
Faith and Hope triumphant say,
Christ will rise on Easter-Day. 

And because He lives, we live differently.

Maybe the greatest evidence of the resurrection isn’t just what happened on that Sunday morning long ago—but how Easter keeps happening in us. Over and over again.

In every moment of forgiveness. In every act of courage. In every step of faith. In every whispered prayer that clings to hope when everything else seems lost.

Easter dawns slowly. It rises through grief, through questions, through encounters.
And when it finally breaks through, it transforms everything.

Brennan Manning, once a skeptic, now confesses, “For me the most radical demand of Christian faith lies in summoning the courage to say yes to the present risenness of Jesus Christ.”

So today, resist the urge to jump to despair. Ask your honest questions and listen for the voice that calls your name. And act on what you discover, living each day as someone who has encountered the risen Christ.

Because Jesus didn’t just rise once. He keeps rising—again and again—even in minds and hearts where the good news of Easter may be gradually dawning.

(Sermon from my first Easter at First Baptist Church of Pensacola, April 10, 2006.)

Love Is a Verb

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A Maundy Thursday Reflection

On Maundy Thursday, we remember one of the most intimate and powerful evenings in the life of Jesus. Gathered in an upper room with his disciples, just hours before his betrayal, Jesus told them, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another” (John 13:34).

Love is action-oriented. Stephen Covey contended, “Love is a verb. Love—the feeling—is a fruit of love, the verb.”

It’s one thing to talk about love. It’s another to live it. Jesus didn’t just tell his disciples to love one another—He showed them. He got down on his knees and washed their feet. He broke bread and shared wine. He spoke tenderly of what was to come, even as he prepared to endure suffering on behalf of the very ones seated at the table.

Love Is Humble

The Son of God, the one through whom all things were made, picked up a towel and served. In a culture where washing feet was the job of the lowest servant, Jesus flipped the script. He demonstrated that love doesn’t seek status or recognition. It stoops. It serves. It sees others as worthy of our time, our care, and our compassion.

Love Is Faithful

Jesus knew that Judas would betray him. He knew Peter would deny Him. He knew the others would scatter in fear. Still, he broke the bread. Still, he offered the cup. Still, he washed their feet. His love didn’t waver based on how others treated him. His love remained faithful, even in the face of betrayal and abandonment.

Love Is Sacrificial

As the shadows grew longer that night, Jesus set His eyes on the cross. Not because he was powerless to avoid it, but because he was committed to a love that would redeem the world. Paul David Tripp proposes, “Love is willing self-sacrifice for the good of another that does not require reciprocation or that the person being loved is deserving.” Maundy Thursday reminds us that love costs something. It’s not always easy or convenient. The mandate Jesus gave is action-oriented. In the gospel Jesus preached, love is a verb.

Love Is Commanded

“Maundy” comes from the Latin mandatum, meaning “commandment.” It points to Jesus’ words in John 13:34: “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” This wasn’t a gentle suggestion—it was a divine directive. It is easy to love God. It is often difficult to love others. Yet one is a reflection of the other. If we call ourselves his followers, then love must be our way of life. Not just love in theory, but love in action.

Love Is a Verb

It’s not just how we feel—it’s what we do. On Maundy Thursday, we’re invited to remember that love is meant to be lived. Whether we are washing feet, sharing a meal, forgiving a wrong, or standing beside someone in their pain, we are called to be people who love with hands and feet, with humility and courage, with grace and truth.

So on this Maundy Thursday, may we do more than recall a sacred meal or a basin and towel. May we recommit ourselves to the path Jesus walked—the path of servant-hearted, sacrificial, unwavering love.

Because love is more than a word.
Love is a verb.