A Pastor’s Prayer for Our Nation- July 14, 2024

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(This pastoral prayer was offered in worship at the Church at Wieuca on Sunday July 14, 2024, the day following the attempted assassination of our former president.)

O God of truth, compassion, and eternal justice, we approach your throne of grace today with heavy hearts, seeking comfort and strength in the wake of the recent shooting that has rattled our nation.

We lift up to you our former president and pray for his quick and thorough recovery, and for his physical and spiritual wellness. And we pray for all those affected by the recent assassination attempt. Administer your healing touch to those who were injured and your comfort to those who lost loved ones, and surround them with your peace that surpasses all understanding.

Lord, in this time of shock and uncertainty, we ask for your divine guidance and protection for our nation. Guard us from further atrocities and unite us in solidarity and compassion. Give wisdom and discernment to national and local leaders as they navigate this crisis and strive to ensure safety and security for all who gather in public spaces.

As we attempt to apply your words to life and to live by faith as we hold to your promise of a better future, we confess that our anger and grief from this event are not nearly resolved, and that a sense of despair and deep concern incubates deep within us.

Rather than being consumed by our grief, controlled by our fears, and riddled by our anxieties, help us set our minds to addressing the injustice and disunity that precipitates hate and hostility. Let us direct our souls to living out our faith in our actions and attitudes, and let us turn our minds to addressing issues rather than attacking people, not with partisanship and fear, but with a responsible and courageous exercise of freedom.

O God we confess our ongoing need of your life-changing and culture-shaping grace. Strengthen our resolve, O God, to stand firm against fear and division, and empower us to work together towards a future of peace and harmony.

Lord, we affirm our trust in your unfailing love and mercy. Guide us through these troubled times with your mighty hand. May your grace abound in us and may the light of your love shine through us.

Above all, teach us to love one another again. And though it swims against the current of our deepest instincts, enable us to love those who think differently than we do, even those who may be considered our adversaries.

Although we have many perspectives, truly make us one nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all. We offer our prayer in the name of the One who aims to unite us all in faith, hope, and love.  Amen

(Barry Howard serves as the pastor of the Church at Wieuca in North Atlanta. He also serves as a leadership coach and columnist with the Center for Healthy Churches. You can follow him on social media at @BarrysNotes.)

7 Reasons to Respect and Protect Religious Liberty

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The First Amendment to the Constitution of the United States confirms that “Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.”

As the primary author of the First Amendment, James Madison argued, “The religion then of every man must be left to the conviction and conscience of every man; and it is the right of every man to exercise it as these may dictate.”

Religious liberty, the freedom to practice one’s faith without intimidation or persecution, is a cornerstone of democratic societies around the world. Our Baptist ancestors were among the many who contended for this liberty for persons of all faiths or no faith.

Religious freedom stands as a beacon of individual and collective rights, fostering diversity, tolerance, and the flourishing of vibrant communities. Here are 7 reasons why I believe we should celebrate and preserve religious liberty:

  • Ensures freedom of worship. Religious liberty guarantees the freedom to practice one’s faith openly, both individually and collectively. It encompasses the freedom to worship, assemble for religious purposes, and engage in religious rituals and observances. Whether it is gathering for worship services, participating in religious ceremonies, or contributing to religious organizations, individuals must have the freedom to express their faith in a manner consistent with their beliefs. This liberty is essential for the spiritual well-being individually and corporately.

  • Safeguards freedom of conscience. Religious liberty protects freedom of conscience, recognizing that true faith is a matter of sincere conviction. One of our historic Baptist principles involves “the soul competency of the individual.” Religious liberty makes certain that individuals are free to explore, question, and embrace their spiritual beliefs without fear of retribution or societal pressure. This freedom of conscience extends beyond religious beliefs to include moral and ethical convictions

  • Welcomes diversity. Religious liberty celebrates the richness of human diversity and supports the coexistence of various faith traditions. It creates an environment where individuals can freely express their religious convictions, contributing to a vibrant tapestry of cultural and spiritual heritage. Diversity enriches communities by fostering mutual respect, understanding, and social cohesion.
  • Protects against persecution and discrimination. Religious liberty serves as a safeguard against discrimination, ensuring that no individual or group faces prejudice based on their religious beliefs. It upholds the principle of equal treatment under the law, promoting a just and inclusive society. Thomas Paine cautioned, “Persecution is not an original feature in any religion; but it is always the strongly marked feature of all religions established by law. By protecting against discrimination, religious liberty fosters social justice and equality for all.”

  • Advances social justice. Religious liberty plays a vital role in promoting social justice and defending the rights of marginalized and vulnerable populations. It empowers individuals and religious organizations to advocate for justice, speak out against oppression, and provide resources to the underserved. Spiritual communities play an active role in addressing social issues, including poverty, inequality, and human rights abuses. By protecting religious liberty, we empower individuals and religious organizations to fulfill their calling to serve and work for the common good.

  • Inspires moral and ethical living. Religious liberty provides individuals with the freedom to follow moral and ethical frameworks guided by their faith. For example, teachings like those of Jesus shape personal conduct, inspire acts of kindness, and promote values such as justice, forgiveness, and love. By allowing individuals to live out their values, religious liberty encourages the development of a cohesive and compassionate society.

  • Safeguards against extremism: History is filled with instances of religious wars and conflicts that led to division and violence. Religious liberty acts as a safeguard against extremism and radicalization. When individuals are free to practice their faith peacefully, they are less likely to resort to violence in the name of religion. Religious liberty and robust interfaith dialogue promote understanding and unity, countering the forces of contempt and hatred.

Baptists have historically championed religious freedom for all religious groups, believing that if one group loses religious freedom, we will all lose our religious freedom. George Truett emphasized, “Baptists have one consistent record concerning liberty throughout all their long and eventful history. They have never been a party to oppression of conscience. They have forever been the unwavering champions of liberty, both religious and civil.”

As we champion religious liberty, we affirm the importance of respecting and protecting the rights of every individual to practice their faith freely, contributing to a more inclusive, compassionate, and harmonious world.

As citizens of these United States, we enjoy more comprehensive freedoms than any other nation on earth. On this 4th of July week, let us remember that “with great freedom comes great responsibility.”

(Barry Howard serves as the pastor at the Church at Wieuca in North Atlanta. He also serves as a leadership coach and columnist for the Center for Healthy Churches.) Top of Form

Heal Our Divisions: A Prayer for Independence Day 2024

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On this Independence Day, we thank you for the gift of freedom, for the courage of those who fought to secure it, and for the opportunity to live in “the land of the free and home of the brave.”

Lord, we remember the sacrifices made by countless individuals who laid down their lives to establish and protect our liberty. May their bravery and dedication never be forgotten, and may we honor their memory by living in ways that honor their sacrifice.

We also pray for those around the world who do not yet enjoy freedom but live under threat and in fear of harsh and unjust regimes. And we pray for those who are fighting for their freedom even now that they may be victorious.

Especially today, we pray for our nation, asking for your guidance and wisdom for our leaders. Grant them the discernment to make just and righteous decisions that uphold the values of freedom and equality for all. Inspire us as freedom-loving citizens to engage actively and responsibly in our civic duties, building a culture of mutual respect and understanding.

During this season of celebration, we are also deeply burdened. Regardless of our personal ideology or perspective, we are concerned about things like the abuse of political power, the threat of terrorism, the divisiveness of harsh and misleading rhetoric, a lack of civil discourse, a growing sense of moral anarchy, the escalation of war, and the possibility of another natural disaster. We have an elevated sense of anxiety about the leadership of our government, the stability of our economy, and the future of our world.

And we confess that these anxieties all too frequently divert us from our mission to care for the “least of these” among us and to “love mercy, act justly, and walk humbly” with you.

We ask, O God, that you bless our land with a revival of unity. Heal the divisions that separate us and let us find common ground in our shared love for this country and the freedoms it represents. May we always strive to extend these blessings to those who are oppressed and marginalized, both within our borders and beyond.

Bless this land and its people. May our actions reflect your love and grace, and may we use our freedom to serve you and others with compassion, integrity, and humility.

Because you are the freedom-loving God, lead us to exercise our freedom responsibly and to pursue “liberty and justice for all” people across our nation and around the globe.

We pray in the strong name of the One who came to make us free indeed. Amen.

Upgrading Our Election Year Conduct

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In 2012, I had the privilege of spending a part of my summer sabbatical in Europe.

Just before beginning a summer term at Oxford University, I visited several historic sites from the ancient Roman Empire trying to brush up on my knowledge of the history of Western Civilization. Just to make a full disclosure, the only “D” I made in college was in the “HY101: A History of Western Civilization.” And I’ve been trying to improve my knowledge of world history ever since.

Our group tour started in Istanbul, Turkey, continued through the Greek Isles, and culminated in Athens, Greece. We visited three of the sites of Wonders of the Ancient World: The Temple of Diana, the Colossus of Rhodes, and the Mausoleum.

We saw monuments and statues with tributes to the provincial governors and one of the many Caesars. After dinner each evening, I would try to catch up on the news of the day by watching BBC or reading an online paper from the U.S.

Reading about Caesar by day and the upcoming U.S. election by night, the simple but daunting reality dawned upon me: citizens in the ancient Roman world had no voice in choosing their governmental leaders, but the U.S. does, and that is still a rare and treasured privilege, even in today’s world.

Only a small percentage of the world’s population has ever had a voice in choosing government officials. Even today when more nations than ever enjoy some form of democracy, only a fraction of the world’s citizens have any say in choosing their elected leaders.

How would life have been different if citizens in the ancient Roman Empire had been allowed to vote on their government leaders?

In a crucial election year, characterized by inflammatory rhetoric and partisan polarities, it’s important to remember that choosing leaders by “voting your conscience and conviction” is a privilege and a responsibility.

I returned home from my summer travels that year with a greater awareness of my national and spiritual heritage, and a greater appreciation for our many freedoms. 

However, as a pastor and as a citizen of these United States, this year I am weary of partisan propaganda-driven politics by both major parties. I am disturbed by the rumormongering, name-calling, and conspiracy theories that are “shared” via social media, blogs, and emails. 

And I am bothered that many in the name of faith are attacking the personal character and the religion of candidates they have never met, all the while avoiding serious dialogue about the most pressing issues of our day.

Maybe more of our time and conversation should be aimed at developing constructive and rational strategies for addressing our national and global challenges.

As the election approaches, here are four ways we can exercise responsible citizenship in times like these, regardless of our party affiliation or religious conviction:

  • Do your homework. Research the candidates and amendments. Do the hard work of wading through the propaganda. Don’t let anyone else tell you how to vote…not your mother, not your father, not your favorite superstar, and certainly not your preacher.

  • Practice civil discourse. Elections are a time to speak your conscience, vote your conviction, and engage in civil discourse. Evaluating and critiquing the issues is much harder work than assailing and attacking a candidate. Dialogue with trusted friends about the pros and cons of a candidate’s track record, leadership style, and long-term vision is constructive. Spouting personal attacks is immature and childish, and it diminishes the electoral process.

  • Vote for your preferred candidate.  Discern and determine which candidate best represents your values and your vision, and then cast your ballot. Do not be deterred or dissuaded by polls that talk about which candidate is leading on a given day. The election is not complete until your vote is cast. Realize that neither candidate is the ideal choice, and that each candidate’s position has strengths and weaknesses. Running for public office is demanding and exhausting. Be grateful for those who are willing to run, even those with whom you disagree. It is difficult for those of us who have never campaigned to identify with the personal toll that is exacted on a candidate and his or her family.

  • Pray for whoever is elected. On the morning after the election, someone will win and someone will lose. As a person who is learning to walk by faith, I am convinced that we need to pray for whoever is elected, whether they are my candidate of choice or not.  In a partisan culture, I find it troubling that often the losing party declares that their mission is to defeat the elected candidate by subverting all attempts at his or her successful leadership. After all, the person who is elected will soon discover that the job requires more than a campaign slogan. I find the words from I Timothy 2:1-3 to be relevant to the way we respond to our elected leadership: I urge, then, first of all, that requests, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for everyone— 2 for kings and all those in authority, that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness. 3This is good, and pleases God our Savior.

Yes, we do live in uniquely perilous times. However, the major dilemmas our country faces were not created by leaders of one party but by both. The resolution and resolve to correct our course will not be provided by one party or one leader, but by courageous, visionary leaders and responsible citizens from across all party lines.

The upcoming election is important but the election itself will not repair the state of the union, no matter which candidate is chosen. 

The Bible does not say, “If my people who are called by my name shall elect the right candidate, I will heal their land.” 

The Bible does say rather emphatically, “If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land.” (II Chronicles 7:14)

And the Bible does not say, “Be kind to one another” (Ephesians 4:32) except during an election year.

The Bible does teach us to “encourage one another and build one another up” (I Thessalonians 5:11.

If as followers of Jesus we began heeding these powerful words, and if we upgrade our election year conduct, we could ignite a bi-partisan movement in our country that makes our nation stronger, and our lives a lot less stressful.

(Note: A previous version of this article was published in 2022.)

(Barry Howard serves as the pastor of the Church at Wieuca in North Atlanta. He also serves as a leadership coach and columnist for the Center for Healthy Churches

Build Each Other Up: 10 Benefits of Encouragement

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In our challenging and fast-paced world a simple word of encouragement can be a powerful force Encouragement not only lifts spirits but also fosters an environment where individuals can thrive. I Thessalonians 5:11 urges us, “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”

Your simple word of encouragement can change the course of someone’s day, and in some cases, even impact the direction of their lives. Here are ten significant benefits of encouragement:

  1. Strengthens relationships. Offering encouragement can strengthen bonds between friends, family members, and colleagues. It shows that we care and are invested in the other person’s success and well-being, fostering deeper and more meaningful connections.

  2. Boosts confidence. Encouragement helps build self-esteem and confidence. When someone believes in us, it reinforces our belief in ourselves. This can lead to greater self-assurance and a willingness to take on new challenges.

  3. Enhances effectiveness. Positive reinforcement is a well-known motivator. Encouragement can significantly improve performance in both personal and professional settings. Whether it’s a pat on the back for a job well done or a pep talk before a big presentation, knowing someone is in our corner can drive us to excel.

  4. Inspires positive thinking. Encouragement cultivates a positive mindset. It shifts our focus from problems to possibilities, helping us approach situations with optimism and a can-do attitude.

  5. Nurtures resilience. Life is full of setbacks and failures. Encouragement helps build resilience, allowing us to bounce back from disappointments. It reminds us that failure is not the end, but a steppingstone to success.

  6. Promotes personal growth. Encouragement often pushes us out of our comfort zones, prompting personal growth and development. It inspires us to set higher goals, pursue new opportunities, and strive for continuous improvement.

  7. Improves mental health. Regular encouragement can have a significant impact on mental health. It reduces feelings of anxiety and depression, providing a sense of support and belonging. Knowing that someone believes in us can alleviate stress and promote emotional well-being.

  8. Fosters teamwork. In a team setting, encouragement boosts morale and builds a collaborative spirit. It helps team members feel valued and appreciated, leading to better cooperation and a more harmonious work environment.

  9. Fuels creativity. Encouragement stimulates creativity by providing a safe space for ideas to flourish. When we feel supported, we’re more likely to think outside the box and take creative risks without fear of judgment.

  10. Creates a ripple effect. Encouragement is contagious. When we receive encouragement, we’re more likely to pass it on to others. This creates a ripple effect, spreading positivity and inspiration throughout our communities.

Encouragement is a tangible expression of Christ’s love. Jesus consistently offered words of comfort, hope, and affirmation to his followers. As Jesus’ disciples, we are called to mirror that same love to others. In John 13:34-35, Jesus commands us, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

Through encouragement, we demonstrate the love of Christ and bear witness to his grace and compassion.

Encouragement is one important way to bring out the best in others. And when encouragment offered, it tends to build up the recipient and the benefactor.

(Barry Howard serves as the pastor at the Church at Wieuca in North Atlanta. He also serves as a leadership coach and columnist with the Center for Healthy Churches. You can follow him on Twitter at @BarrysNotes.)

Let the Sunshine In: Reflections on the Summer Solstice

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Margaret Atwood writes, “This is the solstice, the still point of the sun, its cusp and midnight, the year’s threshold and unlocking, where the past lets go of and becomes the future; the place of caught breath, the door of a vanished house left ajar…”

A part of the mystery and majesty of God’s great big, wonderful world is the circuitous rhythm of the sun, moon, and stars suspended in space.

The summer solstice highlights the incredible cadence and beauty of God’s creation. It occurs when one of the earth’s poles has its maximum tilt toward the sun. It happens twice yearly, once in each hemisphere. Occurring between June 20 and 22 in the Northern Hemisphere, the summer solstice is the day with the longest daylight and a day that marks the official start of summer. This year, the summer solstice happens on June 20, which is the earliest occurrence since 1796.

This annual event invites us to reflect on the light, warmth, and example that nature provides, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Here are a few pastoral reflections on the summer solstice:

  • The rhythm of God’s creation is inspiring. The summer solstice is a testament to the meticulous design of God’s creation. The earth’s tilt and orbit around the sun result in varying amounts of daylight throughout the year, and on this day, we experience the maximum daylight. It’s a time to marvel at the natural world, from the vibrant blooms in our gardens to the extended daylight that allows us to enjoy God’s creation longer each day.
  • Summer is a season of light. Light is a powerful symbol in our faith. In John 8:12, Jesus says, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” As we enjoy the abundant sunlight of the summer solstice, we can also reflect on the spiritual light that Jesus brings into our lives. His light guides us, dispels the darkness, and brings clarity and hope.

  • Growth is necessary to sustain life. Summer is often a time of growth and renewal in the natural world. Gardens flourish, trees are full of leaves, and the earth teems with life. This season of growth can serve as a metaphor for our spiritual journey. Just as plants need sunlight, water, and nutrients to grow, we need the nourishment of God’s love, the refreshment of God’s presence, and the fellowship of God’s people to thrive in our faith.

  • Tempo is part of God’s design. The summer solstice also provides us with opportunities to slow down and reflect. Longer days mean more time to enjoy the beauty of creation, spend time with loved ones, and engage in activities that rejuvenate our spirits. It’s a wonderful time to connect with God through outdoor activities, a scenic drive, or simply sitting in nature and meditating on God’s goodness and grace.

  • We are called to be joyful and responsible stewards of creation. As we appreciate the beauty and abundance of summer, let us also be reminded of our role as caretakers of God’s world. Genesis 2:15 tells us, “The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.” We are called to care for the earth, ensuring that its resources are preserved and its beauty is maintained for future generations.

The summer solstice showcases the divine rhythm and meticulous design of God’s world. And the extended days of summer invite us to slow down and savor the beauty around us.

It’s a fitting season to reflect on God’s goodness and grace, and to let the sunshine in.

(Barry Howard serves as the pastor of the Church at Wieuca in North Atlanta. He also serves as a leadership coach and columnist with the Center for Healthy Churches. You can follow him on Twitter at @BarrysNotes.)

7 Ways to Build Bridges Over the Great Divide

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In a world that feels dangerously divided, followers of Jesus can be proactive and intentional about building bridges over the chasm of our differences. Our faith calls us to be peacemakers, to love our neighbors, and to cultivate unity in our churches and communities.

The Greek philosopher Aesop was the first of many to declare, “United we stand, divided we fall.”

Divisiveness seems to be the primary tool in the arsenal of the adversary. A sports team that is divided seldom wins. A nation that is divided internally is at risk of falling prey to external enemies. A church that is divided diminishes its effectiveness.

How can we bridge the cultural, spiritual, and political rifts that divide us? Here are a few ways we can foster understanding and harmony within our community:

1. Listen actively and attentively. Listening is a powerful act of love. By listening carefully to each other’s stories, we gain insight into different thoughts and experiences that have shaped the other person’s perspective. This requires us to listen without interrupting or preparing a clever retort. It means that we listen to learn and to seek a better understanding of their viewpoint. Empathetic listening can dissolve barriers and foster deeper connections.

2. Respect diversity. Our differences are not just to be tolerated but respected. Each person brings unique gifts and perspectives that enrich our community. Treasure the diverse backgrounds, cultures, and viewpoints within our church, recognizing that diversity reflects the beautiful tapestry of God’s creation. My long-time friend and neighbor, Dow Birkhimer, a retired Lieutenant Colonel, often said to me, “If you and I agree on everything, one of us is not needed.”

3. Engage in open and honest conversations. Creating a safe space for open dialogue is essential. Encouraging honest discussions about our differences, whether they be cultural, theological, or personal, allows us to address misunderstandings and misconceptions. Unity of spirit does not require uniform agreement on every issue. Approach these conversations with an open mind, a spirit of humility, and a willingness to learn.

4. Look for common ground. While differences can sometimes be front page news, it is helpful to focus on the common ground we share. Our faith in Jesus Christ, our commitment to love and serve others, and our commitment to work for the common good are powerful unifying factors. Focusing on these shared values can strengthen our bonds.

5. Practice grace and forgiveness. We all make mistakes and sometimes say or do things that hurt others. Practicing forgiveness and extending grace are crucial in maintaining unity. Be quick to forgive and generous with grace, reflecting the love that Jesus has demonstrated for us.

6. Serve together. Working side by side in service to others can break down walls and build bridges. Whether it is through local outreach programs, mission trips, or community projects, serving together helps us see beyond our differences and unite in our common goal of spreading God’s love. When we serve together, our souls tend to bond, enabling us to trust each other’s motives, even when we think differently about many issues.

7. Pray for unity. Prayer is a powerful tool in bridging divides. Commit to praying for unity within your church and beyond. Ephesians 4:3 urges us to “Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” Pray for God to soften hearts, open minds, and guide us in building relationships that are seasoned with grace and love.

Divisiveness is a tool of the enemy, not a fruit of the Spirit. As we become rooted and grounded in our faith, we are not an easy target for the tempter’s snare.

In John 17:21, Jesus prayed, “that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me.”

Jimmy Carter hit the nail on the head when he said, “The bond of our common humanity is stronger than the divisiveness of our fears and prejudices.”

In our attitudes and actions, we are either building bridges or driving wedges. Don’t join the demolition crew! Build more bridges!

For more information about building bridges, contact the Center for Healthy Churches to learn about R12, a new set of tools designed to help congregations understand, assess, and respond to political and cultural polarization. (www.chchurches.org)

(Barry Howard serves as the pastor of the Church at Wieuca in North Atlanta. He also serves as a leadership coach and columnist with the Center for Healthy Churches. You can follow him on Twitter at @BarrysNotes.)

A Day for Remembering

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Elie Wiesel proposed, “Without memory, there is no culture. Without memory there would be no civilization, no future.“

Today is Memorial Day. Because our military appreciation holidays have specific purposes, someone has clarified that Armed Forces Day honors those who are serving, Veterans Day honors those who have served, and Memorial Day commemorates those who died while serving.

No one knows for sure the exact number of men and women who have lost their lives in service of our country, but most veteran service agencies agree the number is 1.2 million or higher.

During my 46 years of ministry, I have been privileged to serve in two distinguished military communities: Anniston (former home of Fort McClellan) and Pensacola (home of Pensacola Naval Air Station). I continue to share life with those who currently serve or have valiantly served our country. Over the past three years I have enjoyed conversations with multiple military chaplains, officiated a wedding for a naval aviator, presided over the memorial service of a World War II veteran, and listened to the career story of a former navy pilot, now in his eighties.

In each of the communities where I have served, an extraordinarily large number of residents have lost a son, daughter, father, mother, brother, sister, friend or neighbor on the field of battle. During my tenure in Pensacola, I offered eulogies at the Barrancas National Cemetery, where over 32,000 are interred, for more than a hundred memorial services for veterans or their family members.

For this reason, Memorial Day evokes in me more of a sense of somber observance than of celebration. On this one weekend of the year, in the words of Aaron Kilbourne, “The dead soldier’s silence sings our national anthem.”

Although the final Monday in May can often become a holiday marking the beginning of summer, we should be careful that the meaning of this day does not become lost in the business of our activities. Memorial Day is not just another day off from work but a day to remember those who have lost their lives in the military service of our country.
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A nation that fails to remember the sacrifices of those who came before us will inevitably succumb to a convenient amnesia, a loss of corporate memory that eventually robs succeeding generations of acquaintance with our national heritage. To fail to remember creates a contagious apathy that leads to a neglect of both our freedom and our citizenship. To fail to remember can produce a false sense of security and an inaccurate perception that we are exempt from future warfare. If for no other reason, we should remember in order to guard against what George Washington called “the impostures of pretended patriotism.”

Perhaps our virtual reality world is becoming too much of a fantasy world. When we mute the self-serving and accusative political rhetoric, remembering our unabridged heritage can stir in us both a gut check and a reality check. The kind of remembering we need to do on Memorial Day is an uncomfortable but necessary discipline, a practice that forges vision from memory and distills wisdom from history.

As we observe Memorial Day this year, it’s okay to grill the burgers and brats. It’s okay to watch the baseball game. It’s okay to play 18. And it’s okay to take a boat ride with the family. But whatever we do, let us take time to remember the women and men who served with extraordinary courage to establish and preserve our freedom to do all these activities and more. By remembering our history, may we be better prepared to engage the enemies of our day with the weapons of peace, not war.

(photo- Barrancas National Cemetery, Naval Air Station, Pensacola, Florida.)

(Barry Howard serves as pastor of the Church at Wieuca in North Atlanta. He also serves as a leadership coach and columnist with the Center for Healthy Churches. You can follow him on Twitter at @barrysnotes.)

Upgrading Your EQ: 8 Tips for Managing Your Emotions

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Psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor, Viktor Frankl, proposed, “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.” Among the most important decisions we make in life is how we manage our emotions.

In recent years, leadership training events have emphasized the importance of emotional intelligence. But emotional strength and balance are important for everyone, not just those in leadership roles. Utilizing the tools available to help us manage our emotions is especially important for followers of Jesus.

What is emotional intelligence? Emotional intelligence, also known as emotional quotient, refers to our ability to monitor and control our own emotions. Your emotional quotient (EQ) is not the same as your intelligence quotient (IQ), but it is just as important.

Developing a high EQ will reduce mental stress by equipping you with self-awareness, self-regulation, and good communication skills. This will inspire confidence and fortify your emotional strength.

What are the primary human emotions? Several years ago, psychologist Paul Eckman identified six basic emotions that he suggested were universally experienced in all human cultures. The emotions he identified were happiness, sadness, disgust, fear, surprise, and anger. He later expanded his list of basic emotions to include such things as pride, shame, embarrassment, and excitement.

If it feels like your emotions are “all over the map” during this season, you are not alone. Ongoing wars, divisive political rhetoric, economic uncertainty, and terse public discourse are just a few of the things that have challenged our sense of emotional balance.

Here are 8 tips to help us navigate our emotions:

  • Be assured that increased emotional activity is normal. Changes in our routine, reconfigurations in our network of relationships, stress in the workplace or classroom, and uncertainty about the future all tend to elevate our anxiety and stir a variety of emotions.

  • Anticipate emotional fluctuations. During normal times, you may experience momentary surges in anxiety, frustration, anger, and grief. During changing times, those spikes may occur more frequently and last longer.

  • Practice patience. Be patient with yourself and others as you adapt to changes and establish new patterns in your daily routine.

  • Exercise. Walk, run, stretch, or ride your bike. Physical exercise has a way of clearing emotional debris and helping us to recalibrate a healthy sense of balance.

  • Own your emotions. Discuss your emotional fluctuations with a trusted friend, accountability partner, or counselor. Verbalizing your emotions may prove to be therapeutic. Consider adopting journaling, talk therapy, or meditation as regular practices.

  • Become more grounded in your faith. Let your spirituality serve as an anchor. Emotions can be fickle and need to be held accountable to our core values.

  • Fly by the instrument panel. Like a veteran pilot landing a plane in the fog, make decisions based on what you “know,” not how you “feel” at any given moment.

  • Enlist a therapist or counselor. Just like we go to the dentist to care for our teeth and an optometrist to care for our eyes, we may choose to see a counselor for help in navigating our emotions. We don’t wait until our teeth deteriorate to go to the dentist, and similarly, we should not wait until we reach desperation or rock-bottom depression before seeing a therapist.

John Seymour contended, “Emotions make great servants, but tyrannical masters.”

Strengthening our emotional intelligence is key to keeping all the other dimensions of life in harmony. Proverbs 4:23 cautions, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

(Barry Howard is a leadership coach and columnist with the Center for Healthy Churches. You can follow him on Twitter at @BarrysNotes.)

What a Difference a Week Makes! The Transplant Journey of Chris Hoover

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Sunday April 21, 2024
Last Sunday morning we were praying for a liver to become available for Chris Hoover. His liver disease was advancing, and a transplant was necessary for survival. Today, one week later, Chris is home from the hospital post-transplant, he is in good spirits, and he is tremendously thankful. What a difference a week makes!

This journey began for Chris 2 years and 4 months ago when his name was added to the liver transplant list. Liver disease runs on his mother’s side of the family. Chris’ uncle died from it. So at age 67, Chris was aware that the clock was ticking. When he was hospitalized the week before last, the doctor told Chris’ wife, Carol, that Chris would likely not make it to Thanksgiving without a transplant.

Last Sunday morning, we requested that our church family pray for Chris to receive a liver. Retrospectively, Carol says, “While there are many facts about this journey, I think the most compelling one is that nine hours after our Sunday school class prayed for Chris, he got a liver. They prayed for four things: 1)They prayed that Chris would get better from the horrible state he was in when he went into the hospital on Friday. 2) They prayed that he would get a liver. 3) They prayed for the donor’s family. 4) And they prayed for his medical team.”

As a pastor, I’ve had many transplant patients in the congregations I’ve served. Most of them have had good results. Churches can participate in the journey simply by saturating the patient and the family in prayer, especially when the church family understands that prayer is offering our passionate petition to God in a spirit of faith and unity and that even our best prayers do not produce a guaranteed result. Prayer is more mystery than calculus. Yet this mystery is one of the ways we intercede and advocate for the needs of others.

Every person’s journey toward a transplant can be challenging. There are multiple doctor’s appointments, changes in schedule, false alarms, and lots of waiting. One Sunday last year, Chris was serving as our streaming tech. I received a call from our Minister of Music, Rick Cobb, who told me that Chris had just been contacted by the hospital notifying him that a liver had become available, and we needed to find a sub for him. However, before Chris left the church campus, he received another call informing him that the anticipated organ was not viable. Such is the life of a transplant patient.

Last Sunday evening around 9 p.m. I received a message from Carol via one of our administrative assistants sharing that a liver had become available and they were planning to begin the transplant in the next few hours. Rick and I both went to the hospital and shared a time of prayer with Chris before his transplant. Before we prayed, I asked Chris if there was anything specific he wanted us to include in the prayer. He said, “Please tell everyone to pray for the donor’s family. Our time of gratitude is their time of grief.”

The transplant began around two o’clock on Monday morning. With the encouragement of the surgeon, family and friends went home to rest. Chris and Carol were prepared for the surgery to last up to 12 hours. Then they expected that Chris would be in ICU for approximately two weeks. However, I received a call from Carol just after 7:30 on Monday morning saying that the surgeon called to say that the transplant was complete and went extremely well and that Chris was being taken to ICU where she could see him later in the morning.

Here is how Carol recounts the events of the weekend: “On Friday a week ago Chris arrived at Piedmont Hospital the sickest he had been. The medical team worked on him for two days to get him in better condition. When a local donor became available, it could only have been received by someone who was already in the hospital. The treatments he had received for two days had him poised to receive that liver. Local organs are preferred exponentially because it doesn’t involve a long time to travel. The surgeon said if he had gotten the liver of a 75-year-old person, that liver would have a grade of C-. And he said Chris could have lived a very healthy life with that C-liver. However, the liver he received had an exceptional grade of A-. We do not know anything about the donor, except that he was local and it was a male and clearly with such a high-grade liver, he was very healthy. Chris did so well, he was off the ventilator before he even left the operating room. He lost a minimal amount of blood in the surgery. And he was in ICU for only 36 hours.”

On Monday afternoon following the transplant, Chris was eating a small amount of broth and Jello. Chris was transferred from ICU to a regular room on Tuesday evening. And then he was discharged to go home on Saturday afternoon.

The journey is not over over. During the next few months of recuperation and adjustment, Chris will be following a prescribed diet and will have very limited visits with his friends. Every transplant patient is aware of the risk of rejection. So our prayers for Chris will continue during his journey to complete healing.

Every transplant story is unique. Chris and Carol are grateful for every prayer and every word of encouragement. And they are thankful for the incredible transplant team at Piedmont Hospital.

This week at Wieuca we are celebrating and giving thanks for the unfolding transplant testimony of Chris Hoover. What a difference a week makes!