Etched in Granite, Towering with Hope: Remembering Our Visit to Ground Zero

Early that Sunday morning, we discovered the quietest spot in what must be our nation’s loudest city.

In 2017, just after I retired as pastor of the First Baptist Church of Pensacola, we visited New York City to attend the U.S. Open.

Since our visit was on the weekend of the anniversary of September 11, Amanda and I made our way to Ground Zero. It was my first visit to the memorial. It was her second. Typically, on a Sunday morning, we are in church. But on our final day in New York, we found ourselves in a different kind of sanctuary, one built not of stained glass and pews, but of granite, water, and names.

We read the names, like so many others there, looking for the name of the one from our hometown, and we thought about his mother and his family. And we remembered how life changed on that fateful day for families from large cities and small towns all around our country.

In the news footage of September 11, 2001, alongside the horrifying images of collapsing towers, I vividly remember the masses of people moving away from that site, desperate to escape. On this quiet Sunday morning, sixteen years later, I watched masses of people moving toward that same site — not to escape anything, but to remember and reflect.

Where the Twin Towers once stood, One World Trade Center now rises, crowned with an observatory that seems to keep watch over the city below. At its base rests a reflective pool, water descending endlessly into what feels like the basement of memory itself. Standing there, in the solemnness of that unexpectedly quiet corner of Manhattan, I found myself observing several things I haven’t been able to shake since.

A Congregation of Every Kind of American

The crowd that had gathered represented the vast diversity of our country. Multiple races and ethnicities filled that plaza. I’m sure some were international visitors, taking in the memorial as part of a holiday itinerary. But the vast majority, it seemed, were Americans — Americans of different backgrounds, different religious traditions, and undoubtedly different political convictions. And yet, on that morning, in that place, we were simply Americans. No hyphens. No labels. Just people standing shoulder to shoulder in shared grief and shared gratitude.

Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. preached, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.”

Whatever darkness gathered over that site on September 11, what we witnessed on this Sunday morning was light — the light of ordinary people extending quiet dignity to one another as they remembered, reflected, prayed, and commemorated together.

Every Name, Equally Important

Every life lost that day was memorialized as equally important. From the firefighter, to the business executive, to the custodian, to the mother and child — the names inscribed around the reflective pools appear in the same font, the same size, with no suggested hierarchy of importance or privilege. No title before a name. No epitaph elevating one story above another.

There is something profoundly spiritual about that. It reminded me that in the eyes of God, every life bears equal worth — not measured by title, income, or accomplishment, but by the simple fact of being made in God’s image. Ground Zero, without necessarily intending to, underscores that truth in granite.

A Living Memorial

At the reflective pools, memories seemed to move in two directions at once — water descending into the depths, and grief, somehow, rising back up to meet the light. It’s an odd sensation to describe, but standing there, I felt as though the memorial itself understood something about grief that we often miss: that mourning is never a one-way street. What descends into sorrow can still rise again into hope.

I was struck, too, by how many families had brought young children with them — children born well after 2001, hearing this story perhaps for the very first time from a parent’s own lips. I watched mothers and fathers kneel beside sons and daughters, pointing to a name on the wall, offering a brief and tender history lesson right there on sacred ground. It gave new perspective to a phrase we often hear associated with 9/11: “Remember, and never, ever forget.”

But standing there, I realized that remembering is not meant to be a motif for vengeance. It is meant to be a motivating force for building a better world. Elie Wiesel, who knew more about memory and atrocity than perhaps anyone of his generation, put it this way: “To forget the dead would be akin to killing them a second time.”

Every parent kneeling beside a child at that wall was passing along not just a historical fact, but a sacred responsibility — to remember well, so that memory might do some good in the world.

Hope Rising Out of Rubble

Perhaps what moved me most was simply looking up. Where wreckage and ash once filled the skyline, a tower now stands — not identical to what was lost, but new, resilient, and unmistakably reaching toward the sky. The construction of that tower, and the entire redevelopment around it, testifies to something stubborn and beautiful in the human spirit: our capacity to hope for the future even in the shadow of unimaginable loss.

I couldn’t help but think of Fred Rogers, who famously recalled his mother’s advice for facing frightening news: look for the helpers. On this ground, I didn’t have to look far. I saw them in the volunteers guiding visitors. I saw them in the security personnel greeting people with quiet patience. I saw them in the parents becoming, for a moment, historians and pastors to their own children.

And I thought of President George W. Bush’s words spoken in the rubble of that very site, not long after the towers fell: “I can hear you. The rest of the world hears you. And the people who knocked these buildings down will hear all of us soon.”

Sixteen years later, what I heard on that plaza wasn’t defiance. It was something quieter and, in some ways, more powerful: resolve. The resolve to remember rightly. The resolve to grieve honestly. And the resolve to keep building — towers, yes, but also communities, families, and a nation still capable of standing shoulder to shoulder as one people.

Chimes in the Silence

Our time at Ground Zero passed far too quickly. As we made our way to catch the bus back to our hotel, the silence of the morning was broken by the resonating chimes of a nearby church. It felt like a benediction — as if that quietest spot in the loudest city was being gently released back into the noise and rhythm of ordinary life, but not without first leaving something behind in us.

I have preached in a lot of sanctuaries over the years. But that memorial plaza in lower Manhattan is uniquely inspiring — a sanctuary built out of tragedy, sustained by memory, and quietly insistent that even our deepest grief can become fertile soil for hope.

As the poet and civil rights icon Maya Angelou wrote: “History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again.”

May we keep facing it with courage. May we keep remembering well. And may we keep building — towers, friendships, communities, and a world — worthy of the names etched in that granite.

(Barry Howard is a retired pastor who now serves as leadership coach and consultant with the Center for Healthy Churches. He and his wife, Amanda, live on Cove Lake in Northeast Alabama.)

Digital Discernment: Learning to Recognize and Navigate the Algorithm

A few days ago, I did a Google search for “birdseed on sale.” The price of the birdseed at our local farm store had increased again, so I wanted to compare prices online. Within minutes after conducting the search, my social media feed was filled with advertisements and articles about birds, birdseed, bird feeders, bird feeder baffles, bird baths, bird identification, and bird flu, among other bird-related media. That is because we live in the age of the algorithm.

Artificial intelligence, social media, online shopping, streaming services, search engines, political campaigns—they all run on algorithms.

What is an algorithm? An algorithm is simply a set of instructions or rules that tells a computer how to analyze information and make decisions. Algorithms study our searches, clicks, purchases, likes, comments, viewing habits, and even how long we pause over a particular post. Their purpose is to predict what we are most likely to find interesting, then place more of that content in front of us.

Algorithms are neither good nor evil. They help us find the fastest route to our destination, recommend books and movies, filter spam from our email, detect fraudulent credit card transactions, and enable artificial intelligence to answer questions and solve problems. In many ways, we would be lost without them.

The trouble starts when we forget that algorithms are designed to shape our digital experience. Left unchecked, they can gradually reshape our assumptions, reinforce our biases, and influence our decisions without our even realizing it. When an algorithm keeps feeding us information that confirms our own biases and perspectives, it can subtly deepen our divisions.

The Bible encourages us to guard our minds and to love God with our minds. Romans 12:2 even cautions, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” While this verse has been applicable throughout history, it is especially relevant in the digital age.

Rather than allowing the algorithm to manage us, we should learn to recognize it and navigate it wisely.

1. Remember that your feed is customized and curated.

Your social media feed is not a neutral window into the world. It is a carefully curated collection of content the algorithm predicts you are likely to engage with.

If you enjoy travel, you’ll see more travel stories. If you shop for shoes, you are sure to see more shoe advertisements. If you frequently watch political videos from one perspective, you’ll likely receive more of the same. If you click on sensational headlines, the algorithm assumes you want even more sensational content.

Over time, this creates what many call an echo chamber or filter bubble, where we increasingly hear voices that agree with us while hearing fewer that challenge us. Eventually, we may mistake our personalized feed for reality itself. It can even lead us to presume we are in the majority who hold this viewpoint, and then wonder how anyone else could possibly think otherwise.

The first step toward digital discernment is remembering that your feed is designed for engagement, not necessarily for balance.

2. Diversify your sources.

One of the healthiest habits we can develop is intentionally seeking information beyond what the algorithm serves us.

Read news from several reputable organizations. Listen respectfully to thoughtful people with different perspectives. Read books instead of relying solely on headlines. Learn from historians, scientists, theologians, educators, and practitioners who have earned credibility through years of study and experience.

The Book of Proverbs repeatedly reminds us that wisdom grows through listening, learning, and seeking counsel. The broader our sources, the more balanced our understanding becomes.

If you rely on just one source, one opinion, one outlet, you become more vulnerable to disinformation, and you become less likely to have your biases and assumptions tested by a wider range of voices.

An informed mind is usually a humble mind.

3. Be an alert and disciplined steward of your attention and your scrolling.

In the digital age, attention has become one of the world’s most valuable commodities. Social media platforms, advertisers, streaming services, and countless websites are all competing for every extra minute we spend staring at a screen.

Digital communication and online research are genuinely valuable. But too much screen time can take a toll on our mental and physical health, and it can quietly rewire our brains to crave more of whatever we have been feeding them.

The algorithm has no interest in our self-discipline. It is designed to keep us scrolling.

That is why we should periodically ask ourselves healthy questions:

  • Is this helping me grow?
  • Am I learning or merely reacting?
  • Am I controlling my device, or is it controlling me?

Every click, every pause, and every share teaches the algorithm something about us. At the same time, it is shaping our own habits too.

James Clear wisely observes, “Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.” Our digital habits are no exception.

The Bible calls us to steward our time, our talent, and our treasure, and our attention touches all three. When it comes to digital engagement, we need the spiritual discipline to guard our attention as carefully as we guard our time, our finances, and our relationships.

4. Verify information before you share with others online or in person.

The internet rewards speed. Wisdom rewards accuracy.

Before forwarding an article, reposting a video, or quoting a statistic, ask a few simple due diligence questions:

  • Is this true?
  • Is the source trustworthy?
  • Have I read beyond the headline?
  • Is important context missing?
  • Would I want someone to share this if it were about me?

False information often spreads because it confirms what people already believe. Followers of Christ should be known not for sharing the fastest or most flattering information but for sharing the most truthful information.

As the old proverb reminds us, “A lie can travel halfway around the world while the truth is still putting on its shoes.”

5. Prioritize and practice values that transcend the algorithm.

Algorithms can predict what we prefer, but they cannot give us wisdom. They can recommend products, but they cannot build character. They can serve up content all day long, but they cannot teach us compassion, integrity, humility, or love. Those virtues grow out of relationships, prayer, Bible study, worship, service, honest conversation, and walking humbly with God.

The most important influences in our lives should never be determined by artificial intelligence or social media. They should be shaped by timeless truths that endure beyond every technological innovation. Technology is a wonderful servant, but a terrible master.

The Apostle Paul urged believers, “Test everything; hold fast what is good” (1 Thessalonians 5:21). That counsel may be more pertinent today than ever before.

Artificial intelligence will keep getting more sophisticated. Social media algorithms will keep getting more personalized. Marketing will keep getting more precise. Our response should not be fear. It should be discernment.

Every day we have the opportunity to choose whether our minds will be shaped primarily by algorithms or by wisdom, whether our values will be determined by trends or by truth.

So, when you are online, whether you are shopping for birdseed, reading a news article, or listening to your favorite worship song, you will encounter the algorithm. Learn to recognize it and discover ways to manage it, so that it doesn’t manage you.

After all, the greatest influence in your life should not be the next thing your smartphone or laptop suggests. Rather, it should be your faith, your discipline, and your relationships that shape who you are and how you engage with the world around you.

(Barry Howard is a retired pastor who now serves as a leadership coach and consultant with the Center for Healthy Churches. He and his wife, Amanda, live on Cove Lake in northeast Alabama. You can check out his blog at www.covecreekreflections.com and  follow him on social media at @BarrysNotes.)

Writing Your Next Chapter: Learning from Yesterday’s Mistakes as You Embrace Today’s Opportunities

Every life is a book still being written. Some chapters are page-turners. Others we’d rather skip, or tear out entirely, or pretend were written by someone else. But here’s the truth every good editor knows: you don’t get a great book by deleting the hard chapters. You get a great book by letting each chapter speak into the story, and then turning the page.

We are each writing our own life story. And we each make a few mistakes along the way. The question is, how will you deal with those mistakes? Will you wallow in guilt and regret? Or will you rise up and wise up as you make the most of the next day and the next opportunity?

Yesterday’s mistakes may explain part of your story, but they do not define your identity or determine your future. Learn from them, seek forgiveness where needed, extend grace to yourself, and keep moving forward. Your greatest chapters are not written by your failures but by your willingness to rise after you fall.

Here are five things worth remembering as you keep living into your story.

1. Never waste a mistake.

John Harris, a retired pastor and respected counselor in Birmingham who became one of my primary mentors and encouragers, advised me more than once as I navigated the challenges of being a pastor, “Never waste a mistake!”

In 1968, a scientist at 3M named Spencer Silver set out to invent a super-strong adhesive. What he actually invented was the opposite. His efforts resulted in a weak, pressure-sensitive glue that barely stuck to anything and could be peeled right back off. By every measure of the original assignment, it was a failure. It sat on a shelf for years, unwanted, until a colleague named Art Fry realized that a glue which didn’t quite stick was exactly what he needed to keep bookmarks from falling out of his hymnal. That “failed” adhesive became the Post-it Note, which has become one of the best-selling office products in the world.

Silver didn’t waste his mistake. He kept talking about it, kept believing it was useful for something, even when he didn’t yet know what. Thomas Edison famously took the same posture toward his own long string of failed experiments: “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Notice, he didn’t call them failures. He treated them as lessons.

Every mistake you’ve made is carrying information and potential you haven’t fully processed yet. A wasted mistake is one you feel bad about and then set down without asking what it came to teach you. A redeemed mistake is one you turn over in your hands until you find the thing it was hiding.

2. Although you cannot re-write the previous chapters of your biography, your next chapter can be the best part of your story.

Just as no author achieves perfection on their first attempt at writing, so no human being lives an error-free life. When you make mistakes, you cannot go back and unwrite the chapters already behind you. But you are not required to let yesterday’s chapter set the tone for the next segment of your story.

Maya Angelou put it simply: “I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” That’s not an excuse for the past. It’s a hinge for the future. The chapters behind you are locked, but they’re not the whole book. As is often said, though its precise origin is debated: you can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.

Some of the most compelling stories in history are compelling precisely because of the turn partway through, the chapter where everything changes. J.K. Rowling was rejected by twelve publishers before Harry Potter found a home. Walt Disney was fired from a newspaper for “lacking imagination.” Neither of them got to revise those rejections. But neither of those rejections got to write the next chapter either. You get to decide what this one says.

3. When extending grace to others, do not neglect to extend grace to yourself.

We tend to be far more patient editors of other people’s stories than our own. A friend confesses a mistake, and we say, “That doesn’t change how I see you.” We say it, and mean it, and yet turn around and refuse ourselves the very same grace.

There’s a striking scene near the end of John’s Gospel. Peter had denied even knowing Jesus three times, on the worst night of his life, in the exact moment loyalty mattered most. It would have been reasonable for that failure to define the rest of Peter’s story. Instead, Jesus finds him on a beach and asks him, three times, “Do you love me?” — one gentle question for every denial, not to rub his face in the failure, but to write over it. Peter didn’t get a different past. He got a next chapter, and it turned out to be the chapter where he became the rock the church was built on.

If you’re the kind of person who extends grace freely to everyone except yourself, it’s past time for your to make more space for grace to do its work in your life. Extend yourself the same sentence you’d offer a friend: that doesn’t change how I see you.

4. Live so that your mistakes don’t define you. Let them refine you instead.

There’s a meaningful difference between a mistake that defines you and one that refines you. A defining mistake becomes your whole identity, the thing people whisper about, the thing you introduce yourself with in your own head before anyone else says a word. A refining mistake becomes raw material, something the heat was turned up on, but that came out of the fire more useful than it went in.

Before Abraham Lincoln became one of the most consequential presidents in American history, his résumé read like a catalog of setbacks: a failed business, a nervous breakdown, defeat after defeat in elections for state legislature, Congress, and the Senate. His later success erased none of that. All of it refined the patience and depth of character that later success required. Author and speaker John Maxwell has a phrase for this that’s worth internalizing: fail forward. Not fail and stay down. Fail forward!

The question is never really whether you’ll make mistakes. You will. The only real question is whether you’ll let them harden into an identity or soften into wisdom.

5. In the age of AI and virtual reality, be sure your life story is biography and not fantasy or fiction.

We live in a strange new season of history, where it has never been easier to construct a version of your life that isn’t quite true. A filtered photo. A curated feed. An AI-generated image of a vacation you didn’t take, a body you don’t have, a highlight reel with all the ordinary, unglamorous, mistake-filled chapters edited out. Virtual worlds let us build avatars who never fail, never age, never have an awkward year. It is entirely possible, now, to spend more energy authoring a fictional version of yourself than living an honest one.

But here’s the thing about a fictional chapter: it can look impressive, and it can still be empty, because nobody grows from a chapter they didn’t actually live. Growth requires friction, and friction requires reality. The mistakes you’re tempted to edit out of your story are often exactly the chapters doing the most work in you.

Theodore Roosevelt is credited with the observation that “comparison is the thief of joy.” And in an age when everyone else’s highlight reel is a thumb-scroll away, that theft happens faster than ever. Write your actual story. Let it include the parts that don’t photograph well. A true biography, mistakes and all, will always be worth more than a polished fiction because only the true story is actually yours, and only the real story can actually be redeemed.

Winston Churchill once said that success is not final, failure is not fatal — it is the courage to continue that counts. Life is about authenticity. Not the absence of mistakes. Not a life edited down to only its best moments. Just the courage to keep writing, one honest page at a time, one day at a time.

Your greatest chapters are not focused on your failures, yet mistakes are a part of the narrative. The best chapters are written by your willingness to rise after you fall, and to continue the journey, believing that the best part of the story is yet to come.

(Barry Howard is a retired pastor who now serves as a leadership coach and consultant with the Center for Healthy Churches. He and his wife, Amanda, live on Cove Lake in northeast Alabama.)

Just a Swinging: 7 Good Reasons to Have a Porch Swing

My grandparents had one. My parents had one. And we have one. Actually, we just got a new one. A porch swing that is. There’s something about a porch swing that seems to slow time down.

I grew up with porch swings. Those swings held laughter, conversations, quiet moments, and the gentle rhythm of life. Amanda and I had a porch swing during the first eight years of our marriage, and now we’ve had one again for the past six years. Just this month, we added a new swing to our pavilion overlooking the lake—and I have to say, it is the most scenic view we’ve ever had from a swing.

The porch swing became popular in America in the late 1800s, especially during the Victorian era. As front porches became central to home life, swings were added as a place for rest, conversation, and connection. Before air conditioning, families would gather on porches in the evening to catch a breeze, share stories, and simply be together.

The swing wasn’t just furniture—it was a gathering place. A sanctuary. A slowing-down space. There are many benefits to having a porch swing. Here are 7 good reasons:

1. Spending time on a porch swing forces us to slow down. A porch swing doesn’t rush. It rocks. In a world addicted to speed, the swing invites us into a different rhythm.  Someone wisely said, “Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is rest.”

2. A porch swing creates space for conversation. Some of the best conversations don’t happen around conference tables—they happen side by side, gently swinging. There’s something disarming about a porch swing. It invites honesty. I suspect many meaningful family moments over the years began with, “Let’s sit in the swing.”

3. A porch swing encourages good mental health. The gentle, repetitive motion of a swing has a calming effect on the mind and body. Mental health experts often note that rhythmic movement can reduce stress, lower anxiety, and improve. Or as one therapist put it: “Calm often comes through rhythm.”

4. A porch swing connects generations. Porch swings are one of the few places where generations naturally overlap. Grandparents, parents, children—everyone fits. Somewhere between the creak of the chains and the sway of the seat, stories are told, wisdom is passed down, and memories are made.

5. A porch swing keeps us grounded in the present. A swing doesn’t go anywhere—and that’s the point. In a culture obsessed with “what’s next,” the porch swing whispers, “Be here now.” Missionary Jim Eliot said, “Wherever you are, be all there.”

6. Sitting in a porch swing turns ordinary moments into meaningful ones. You don’t need a special occasion to sit on a porch swing. Morning coffee tastes better. Bird songs sound more cheerful. Sunsets feel richer. Even silence feels full. A simple swing can transform a routine day into a memorable moment.

7. A porch swing is good for the soul. At the end of the day, life is not measured in miles traveled or tasks completed—it’s measured in moments shared. A porch swing is a good place for prayer, reflection, relationship-building, problem-solving, and storytelling.

If we’re not careful, our lives become like endless scrolling—fast, distracted, and forgettable.

The porch swing is the opposite.

Where the smartphone speeds us up, the swing slows us down.
Where the phone distracts, the swing centers.
Where the phone isolates, the swing connects.

One pulls us away from life. The other gently rocks us back into it.

Looking out over the lake from our new swing, I’m reminded that while the scenery may change over the years, the purpose of the swing never does.

It is still a place to rest. Still a place to reflect. Still a place to connect.

And maybe that’s the real gift of a porch swing—it doesn’t just move back and forth… it brings us back to what matters most.

Sometimes life is better when you take time to sit and just swing.

Just Hanging Around: The Brown Bat on Our Front Porch

(Stock photo)
A couple of months ago, a family member noticed a brown bat hanging on our front porch. Since then, our new friend has made frequent appearances. But over the past week, the bat has been there almost every afternoon, resting quietly in the shade just above the door. At first, we weren’t sure what to make of this tiny visitor. Was it lost? Was it dangerous? Or was it simply taking a break from its nightly rounds?

Curiosity soon turned into fascination. So, I did what any curious person would do — I looked it up. That’s when I took a deeper dive into chiropterology — the scientific study of bats. It comes from the Greek words cheir (hand) and pteron (wing), meaning “hand-winged.” And it’s an apt description. A bat’s wing is really a modified hand, with long, finger-like bones stretched out under a thin layer of skin. The more I read, the more amazed I became at these misunderstood creatures.

The brown bat on our porch, I learned, is probably an Eastern small brown bat, a species common throughout much of North America. Far from being pests, these bats are actually helpful neighbors. Each night, a single brown bat can eat hundreds of mosquitoes, moths, and beetles, serving as nature’s pest control service, free of charge.

In the 1920s, the Texas farmer Charles Campbell discovered how bats could protect crops from insect infestations. He built the first “bat tower,” inviting bats to roost nearby so they could feast on pests at night. His experiment was successful, and ever since, people have come to view bats not as villains of the night, but as quiet allies in the balance of nature.

Today, bats are even finding a role in technology. Modern scientists study how bats navigate with sonar to improve drone guidance systems and medical imaging. What once seemed mysterious is now inspiring innovation, a reminder that creation itself holds lessons awaiting our discovery.

Still, bats tend to get a bad reputation. They’re often linked with darkness, caves, and spooky stories, unfair associations that miss their real purpose. Watching our little brown bat tuck itself into the same quiet apex of our porch ceiling each afternoon has reminded me that even the most misunderstood creatures have a place in God’s plan.

As one biologist observed, “To study bats is to see beauty where most see only shadows.” God’s creation is full of surprises, and sometimes, the reminder of divine creativity is right at your door.

So now, when I step out on the porch and look up, I’m grateful for our tiny tenant. Bats are stealthy creatures, yet they remind us that there’s fascination in things we often overlook, and purpose in things we often misunderstand, even the eerie things.

Rather than wishing our bat would stay away, we want our friend to hang around a while and feast on our lakeside mosquito population so that they do not feast on us.

I Think I Will Give Up Worry for Lent!

(Revised from 2020)

This year, I think I’ll give up worry for Lent.

Yesterday, I watched news footage from the Fat Tuesday celebrations in New Orleans—a day when many indulge in gluttonous feasting and revelry. Today is Ash Wednesday, marking the beginning of the season of Lent, a time of intentional preparation for Easter. During this sacred season, believers focus on self-examination, reflection, and repentance.

Traditionally, Christians choose to give up something significant to them during Lent. I have friends who forego their favorite indulgences—chocolate, coffee, sugar, or soft drinks—as a form of spiritual discipline. But since I seem to have a genetic predisposition to worry, I think I’ll try giving that up instead—for at least 40 days.

The Burden of Worry

I don’t actually like to worry. In fact, I know it’s not constructive. Worry is like spam or junk mail—it clutters my mind, taking up valuable space needed for creative thinking, planning, visioning, and problem-solving. I function far better when I’m not weighed down by excessive worry.

And yet, worry is persistent. Each time I try to kick it out the front door of my mind, it sneaks around and slips back in through the back.

Years ago, a friend of mine had a giant poster mounted above his desk that read:

“Don’t tell me worry doesn’t help. Half the things I worry about never happen.”

Erma Bombeck humorously captured the futility of worry when she said, “Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere.”

An Inherited Habit?

I sometimes wonder if worry can be inherited. I watched the wear and tear of worry in my parents and grandparents and have noticed that many of their offspring—including me—struggle with this same mental distraction.

And I’m not alone. Over coffee, I’ve listened to CEOs, ministers, business owners, attorneys, physicians, and educators share their struggles with worry. It’s no surprise—there’s always something to be anxious about:

  • Our businesses
  • Our families
  • Our investments
  • Terrorism
  • The economy
  • Political turmoil
  • Wars and rumors of wars
  • Friends losing their jobs
  • Health concerns
  • The future…

The list seems endless.

A Better Way

Perhaps I’m not the only one who should give up worry for Lent. Since this is a season of intentional preparation for Easter, maybe we should all listen again to the words of Jesus:

“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?”Matthew 6:25-27

As we begin our Lenten journey, I’m trying to give up worry for at least 40 days. Maybe—hopefully—even longer.

Would you like to join me?

(Barry Howard is a retired pastor who currently serves as a leadership coach and columnist for the Center for Healthy Churches. He and his wife reside on Cove Lake in northeast Alabama.)